Officiant: This event is shared, if in a different way, by those who have passed beyond this life. They are gratefully remembered and honored as we witness this joyous event. Join with us, then, in fond memory of all these people, and in particular (your loved one)
In their memory, let us participate in a moment of silence.
Or
Officiant: _____ & _____will now light a memorial candle in a tribute to (your loved one) to honor their memory and recognize their spirit here. (candle is lit by bride & groom)
Officiant: The light of their memory can never be extinguished in your hearts.
This portion of the vows may be inserted wherever you prefer on your preference of the standard civil or spiritual vows.
Benita Bradley 